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I always find it impressive how contradictory we can be. On one hand, I consider myself a pretty tough girl but on the other hand I'm a wus. Case in point was the creepy guy who used to live next door to me and my ex-fiancee. I never told him to stop doing his creepy stuff (like leaving a bag in front of our door with lingerie inside as a "gift" to me :| ) - it was my ex who ended up confronting him. I was scared - that was why I didn't say anything. I'm now 30 years old (OMG I can't believe I crossed over!) and I'm still a wus.

I was almost told off by a friend for not reacting to the creep. I don't think he really understood. Not a lot of guys appreciate how the world is from the point of view of a woman. Looks when I walk into a restaurant. Being called a slut at a dance club because my skirt was a little short and I had just told the guy that I was gay. A drink offered to me that I never asked for. Being called a bitch because I dared to tell a driver off because he nearly ran me over on my bike. Being overridden at a meeting by a snarky guy who acted like I had nothing of value to add. Having my bum pinched by some slimy dude in Rome. Not getting that pay rise and being told to depend on "karma" instead because karma can pay my rent and buy me food (look up Satya Nadella and karma)...I can think of so many others.

Of course I have nothing on what being a woman is like in places where I could be sold into slavery, where it's ok for a man to beat me up, where I can get shot because I want to go to school or where being raped is just par for the course no matter how young I might be. 

History has taught me to be a victim. We are treated and we treat ourselves as girls who aren't truly owners of our own bodies or destiny because daddy will always protect us (or beat us up if we don't want his protection). IMHO most feminist movements have it wrong. They want us to persist our girlhood - except now we shouldn't listen to daddy but mommy instead.  

As tempting as it is to roll over and ask to be protected, we shouldn't. The world isn't safe and the world isn't fair and we have to learn to live with that. If my bum is pinched, maybe I should reciprocate with his balls or if a guy treats me like a bimbo in a meeting, make sure that we have *that conversation* after or if I'm not getting a pay increase, walk into my boss's office and demand why and if I don't get a good answer from him, walk into his boss's office.

Everything around us teaches us to be scared. Be good little girl, don't create too many ripples and daddy will protect you. I really miss the girl who could kick the ass of a guy twice her size and be rarin' to go again. Time for her to grow up and be the woman who can kick the ass of a guy twice her size (finding a guy twice my size isn't hard).

In the IDF, I learned that being a woman didn't excuse me from my responsibilities to defend my country. I should learn to apply that lesson closer to home....and stop worrying.

...The lady steps off her soapbox, takes a bow, and exits stage left
  • Mood: Neutral
  • Listening to: the sounds of silence...shhhh
  • Reading: Watership Down
  • Eating: Toast with peanut butter
  • Drinking: Fair trade coffee
1, 2, 3,.....FIGHT! by bidabby
1, 2, 3,.....FIGHT!
Rule #4568 
When fighting an armored lizardman, I do NOT need show excessive cleavage.  REALLY.  Ok, maybe just a bit just to mix it up a bit.

When I grow up I want to be an MMA fighter.  I LOOOVE Gina Carano.  But I don't want to fight Lizardmen.  Those douches don't play fair.
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I always find it impressive how contradictory we can be. On one hand, I consider myself a pretty tough girl but on the other hand I'm a wus. Case in point was the creepy guy who used to live next door to me and my ex-fiancee. I never told him to stop doing his creepy stuff (like leaving a bag in front of our door with lingerie inside as a "gift" to me :| ) - it was my ex who ended up confronting him. I was scared - that was why I didn't say anything. I'm now 30 years old (OMG I can't believe I crossed over!) and I'm still a wus.

I was almost told off by a friend for not reacting to the creep. I don't think he really understood. Not a lot of guys appreciate how the world is from the point of view of a woman. Looks when I walk into a restaurant. Being called a slut at a dance club because my skirt was a little short and I had just told the guy that I was gay. A drink offered to me that I never asked for. Being called a bitch because I dared to tell a driver off because he nearly ran me over on my bike. Being overridden at a meeting by a snarky guy who acted like I had nothing of value to add. Having my bum pinched by some slimy dude in Rome. Not getting that pay rise and being told to depend on "karma" instead because karma can pay my rent and buy me food (look up Satya Nadella and karma)...I can think of so many others.

Of course I have nothing on what being a woman is like in places where I could be sold into slavery, where it's ok for a man to beat me up, where I can get shot because I want to go to school or where being raped is just par for the course no matter how young I might be. 

History has taught me to be a victim. We are treated and we treat ourselves as girls who aren't truly owners of our own bodies or destiny because daddy will always protect us (or beat us up if we don't want his protection). IMHO most feminist movements have it wrong. They want us to persist our girlhood - except now we shouldn't listen to daddy but mommy instead.  

As tempting as it is to roll over and ask to be protected, we shouldn't. The world isn't safe and the world isn't fair and we have to learn to live with that. If my bum is pinched, maybe I should reciprocate with his balls or if a guy treats me like a bimbo in a meeting, make sure that we have *that conversation* after or if I'm not getting a pay increase, walk into my boss's office and demand why and if I don't get a good answer from him, walk into his boss's office.

Everything around us teaches us to be scared. Be good little girl, don't create too many ripples and daddy will protect you. I really miss the girl who could kick the ass of a guy twice her size and be rarin' to go again. Time for her to grow up and be the woman who can kick the ass of a guy twice her size (finding a guy twice my size isn't hard).

In the IDF, I learned that being a woman didn't excuse me from my responsibilities to defend my country. I should learn to apply that lesson closer to home....and stop worrying.

...The lady steps off her soapbox, takes a bow, and exits stage left
  • Mood: Neutral
  • Listening to: the sounds of silence...shhhh
  • Reading: Watership Down
  • Eating: Toast with peanut butter
  • Drinking: Fair trade coffee

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Russian, British, Israeli American, Lipstick Lesbian, father a diplomat, mother a teacher, step sister a bitch, woman who married my father a greater bitch. Young enough to still make massive screw ups and old enough to realize when I do.
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Thank you for watching and for the faves.
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dwaynebiddixart Featured By Owner Dec 20, 2014  Professional Digital Artist
Thanks for the watch
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bidabby Featured By Owner Dec 22, 2014  Student
You're welcome :)
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chinoise56 Featured By Owner Dec 7, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
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:heart: H A P P Y !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:heart:
:heart: B I R T H D A Y !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:heart:
:heart: G O R G E O U S !!!!!!!!!!!!!!:heart:
:heart: M A R K E T A !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:heart:
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bidabby Featured By Owner Dec 13, 2014  Student
Thank you! :blush:
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chinoise56 Featured By Owner Dec 13, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
My pleasure!! :TipOfTheHat: 
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BarefootPiratequeen Featured By Owner Dec 7, 2014
:cake: Happy Birthday to you, Marketa! Best wishes from Germany! :ahoy:
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bidabby Featured By Owner Dec 13, 2014  Student
Vielen Dank! :kiss:

Ich hoffe alles ist gut bei dir!
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BarefootPiratequeen Featured By Owner Dec 14, 2014
Es war mir eine Freude! :blowkiss:

Bei mir ist alles gut, vielen Dank. Ich hoffe bei Dir auch.
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thank you for the fav!
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