As my small community of friends may have read, I love sex. Abstinence for me is like not eating. It took me a long time to shed inhibitions that my strict upbringing burdened me with. I was a victim of many misunderstandings of what was appropriate for the libido of a woman. I was taught to eat salads when I really wanted to eat steak.
With that in mind, I want to dispel certain flawed ideas about female sexuality.
It's a common myth that girls:
- don't get as horny as boys. We do.
- won't have sex at the drop of a hat if we were unconstrained by social norms (ie. being called a slut).
- need foreplay...ok that's not completely a myth. I love the buildup to the act - the touchy feely stuff. Usually my girlfriends like that too. Oh and I love spooning/cuddling after!
- don't like being single. Bullshit. Being single is wonderful. After coming out of a relationship and being devastated by it, I welcome the respite and the casual sex that comes with it.
- don't like porn. I do - I just call it erotica - sounds better and more feminine. BTW a lot of porn sucks.
It's also a common myth that lesbians do it while wearing socks. I can assure you, I don't. I wear socks after I do "it". What can I say? - I get cold feet.
There is a belief that we are wired differently and that we can't derive as much pleasure from the act itself. This belief runs deep. It stems from the idea of the virgin is the apotheosis of all possible states that a woman can occupy. It all goes downhill after a woman loses her virginity. (Which reminds me - someone should tell those dumbass suicide bombers that being granted 72 virgins for eternity is actually a pretty sucky deal - they should see how long that works out for them. Also, where does "He" get all those virgins????!!!).
If virginity is the apotheosis of womanhood then it follows that the closer one is to that state, the purer one is. Let's look at this idea for a moment.
People don't like used property. The love of the virgin, therefore, is equivalent to saying that if a woman is not a virgin then she is used. ie. she is property. And who likes used cars - right? From this, the logical inference is that in most societies (including our own "enlightened" one) we are still seen as property and that the long hand of an ancient patriarchy is still choking our sex drive.
In our so-called "modern society" why is being a virgin (or close to one) still a thing?
We want to fuck! So we should fuck away and be happy. Leave us alone!